It all started back when I was in Kindergarten. I was an exceptional runner (which I can no longer proclaim) and was set to run in our school Olympics. I was stoked. I was prepared. I was set to win. And I did.
The only problem came after I won when a CLASS BULLY came and bullied me right out of my ribbons that I had won. She didn’t win and she was pissed! She decided to take that anger out on me and force me into handing over my well-deserved prized ribbons. She threatened me physically if I didn’t turn them over. And I was much smaller than she was. So I caved in.
Had that happened as I had gotten older I don’t know that I would have caved in so easily. Things have changed and I have dealt with more bullies in my lifetime than you can shake a stick at.
I’ve dated bullies, married bullies and even worked with bullies. And they all suck! They try to force you into something you’re not comfortable doing and demand that you adhere or else! They try to make you feel bad, guilty or some other twisted emotion until you cave.
As of late, I’ve heard all kinds of horrendous stories of bullies in school who cause other children to take their own lives, bullies in marriages who cause the other to wind up on an episode of “Snapped” as well as bullies online, whether at work or in social circles in general.
The thing is, not allowing students or employees on social media just because of potential risks is not the root of the problem. If someone is a bully, they’re going to be a bully at school, at work, at home or online. It’s just a fact. If someone’s an ass, they’re gonna be an ass wherever.
Some argue that social media allows folk to hide behind technology in the appearance of bullying but I suggest that it’s just another channel for someone to be a jerk.
I’ve recently even heard of employer’s firing through text messages, email and the like – and that just boils down to poor communication and management skills. They’re just wimping out and perhaps hate confrontation. If that’s you, stop it and man up.
I propose this: It’s not the fault of the technology, it’s how it’s used.
What do you think?
For more into the profile of a workplace bully check this.
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