Since it’s mushy-gushy Valentine’s Day, I thought I would delve into this topic of “Dating at Work.” (AKA – fraternizing) I addressed this on a previous post HERE.
I’ve been in a couple of relationships where I worked with someone I dated (read above post for first scenario). The second one was where I was working at said company and became really good friends with one of my coworkers. He was the best! After a few months of engaging as friends we took it to the next level. We kept this relationship private for several months (although there were no policies in place against it).
The relationship was a fabulous one, I might add (away from work) and yeah, there was a little fun having a “secret” that no one else knew – only the two of us. The time came that we had to admit to our superiors that we were in fact in a serious relationship and it looked as though we were moving in together (hey, at least we could save on fuel and car pool). They took it like champs and we agreed to try and keep work and life separate.
One problem with that is if you don’t know how to turn that switch off you’ll wind up discussing all kind of crap at the dinner table, in the restaurants, and in bed before going to sleep. (Yes, I said it!) And that’s what happened, about 50% of the time. Oh, and did I mention that I worked in an industry that was made up of approximately 89% of the male population? That made for a lot of discussion especially when I was expected to whine and dine potential customers off the clock.
All in all, it can work. It’s just a matter of keeping a few things in mind:
1. Make sure your policy at work is accepting (otherwise, don’t risk it)
2. Be able to turn the ON switch to OFF when you walk out that door
3. Trust your partner (doesn’t that go without saying?) and understand that work is work!
4. Stay private (no one needs to know about your private life and if you open that up you’re doomed)
5. Don’t sleep with the boss (I felt the need to throw that in)
The relationship I discussed above turned out to be awesome and lasted almost three years but it was very challenging to keep in tact because of certain issues which could never be resolved. Oh, and it had nothing to do with our working together.
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